I will check here often since I see nifty is not getting updated as much on FSB. All too often parents and others whom the boys look up to and listen to, use the wrong words around them which can make the boy feel that he is not worthy of their love or attention because they say things like, you did bad, or you were bad, instead of clearly sayin the behavior was bad, but he is still a good boy and loved. That when they mess up, what they did was wrong or bad, but they are not bad. That they are loved unconditionally for whom they are, not for how they act or what they do or dont do. To know that they are never too old for a hug or to snuggle or cuddle if that is what they feel they need and want. I was so proud, but explained that fighting is not the answer, and that I was disappointed he did not find another way or tell me about the bully.īoys need positive attention and love. But he had no problem throwing down with a bigger kid if he had to, I had to take a day off because he got into a fight with a 5th grader that was picking on him, and he stood up to him.
It sunk in and the boys were very kind and protective of Nicky, whenever he needed it. Some had questions and I just told them that everyone is different and special, and if we accept each other for whom they are, then they and us can all be happier and better friends. The best part was the other boys accepted him for whom he was. He started to outgrow the sissy side when he was getting as much attention and positive reinforcement doing normal boy stuff instead of just as a princess. He loved fishing and roughhousing, and even working on my truck with me, even in the dirt or grease, but he had his princess and even at time sissy side that came out. I think when he was younger he was only told he was pretty and I believe the princess part came from his home life growing up with only his mom, her friend and several older girls. I also told them that clothes do not make the man or boy, its what is inside that matters, and if they like blue, red, pink or purple, it does not change hwo I see them, and if someone does not like them because of their clothes or being emotional, than that person is not a true friend and not to worry about the loss. I told them they coudl just be themselves and I did not care if they were straight, gay, bi or unsure. That included all the good things and even the bad things that happened. They ranged from the more common bazookas, bosoms and knockers, to the not-so-common zingers and. In 1986, Playboy published a list of 300 synonyms for breasts. When I did fostercare, I always told my boys that I accepted and loved them for whom they were. /rebates/&252fviewer-submission. Breasts, as a concept, are not only considered sexy, but are seen as a comedic element to a woman’s appearance, only adding to overall self-consciousness. Boys or anyone for that matter, should be able to be themselves, freely and accepted and loved for it.